Anxiety and Boundaries

If you're someone like me who suffers from anxiety, you already know that certain “triggers” can heighten your anxiety to an all-time high. These triggers can range from certain types of situations to certain kinds of people; yes, we all know some people can make our anxiety worse. What traits these kinds of people who cause your anxiety to be high, of course, vary from person to person; however, if you're one of the millions of adults in the United States who suffers from an anxiety disorder you will likely recognize a few common traits between people who simply make our anxiety go through the roof — even if they don't mean to.

You know who I’m talking about: People who don’t respect anyone’s boundaries and call you in the middle of known work-related appointments, meetings or even non work related; they come over unannounced and overstay their welcome; they ignore your discomfort when you aren't ready to talk about a sensitive issue or ignore your wishes all together because of a sense of entitlement. Still, you may keep this person in your life for a reason: Perhaps they're a close friend, a family member, or a co-worker, and you want to stay on good terms with them. That's good and fine! But it could also be contributing to your anxiety.

People who don't respect your personal boundaries, however, tend to shatter that structure, which can make it a lot harder for people with anxiety to function on a day-to-day basis. Especially if your anxiety involves a fear of judgment or desire to be liked, it can be especially difficult to let someone know they're crossing the boundaries, but it's valid and important to stand up for yourself and your needs. Its ok to set boundaries and stick with them. You're in control of you and what or who you allow in your space.